Clean Sheets Erotica Magazine:
Quantum Love: a Beginner’s Guide to Polyamory

by Emily Nagoski
(01/22/03)

For me, it started with a guy at a party. He was so stylish and so smart and so glitteringly charming and so obviously flirting with me, I just had to have him naked in my bed. I'm sure you know the (tingly) feeling. I approached him confidently, chatted him up just like a pro, and half an hour later we were sitting in each other's laps, tongue wrestling.

Now, I've never actually had a bucket of ice water chucked directly into my lap, but if I did, I bet it would feel just like that.